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Delaware 87ers Prevention Night

Delaware Fatherhood and Family Coalition - Monday, February 22, 2016

Delaware 87ers Prevention Night

Friday, March 18, 2016
Bob Carpenter Center
631 S College Ave, Newark, DE 19716


Tip off at 7pm. Tickets $9.00

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Any questions contact Chanelle Reynolds 302.351.5372 or email chanellereynolds@sevens.com

4th Annual Back To School Hip-Hip Jam

Delaware Fatherhood and Family Coalition - Tuesday, July 21, 2015

Delaware Fatherhood and Family Coalition in collaboration with Christian Love Worship Cathedral Presents

4th Annual Back To School Hip-Hip Jam

AUGUST 8TH, 2015
11AM TO 3PM

GIVEAWAYS, BOOKBAGS, SCHOOL SUPPLIES, HOT DOGS, WATER ICE, GAMES, MOON BOUNCE, FACE PAINTING, HEALTH SCREENING

FOR MORE INFO : WWW.DFFCDADS.ORG | EMAIL: ADMIN@DFFCDADS.ORG | ELDER DAPHNE MCRAE DAPHNE.M.MCRAE@GMAIL.COM 302 463.7688
Funded by the Division of Prevention and Behavioral Health Services, Delaware Children's Department –Title IVB-II PSSF Act

Children with involved fathers are significantly more likely to earn a college diploma.

Delaware Fatherhood and Family Coalition - Monday, May 18, 2015

I recently read an article on American Enterprise Institute website aei.org by W. Bradford Wilcox, associate professor in the department of sociology at the University of Virginia. Teenagers with involved fathers are significantly more likely to graduate from college. Specifically, compared to their peers whose fathers are not involved, young adults with involved fathers were at least 98 percent more likely to graduate from college.

Wilcox offered four possible reasons why paternal involvement is linked with a college degree.

  • Involved fathers may provide their children with homework help or other knowledge that helps them become academically successful.
  • Involved fathers help children stay on the right track and steer away from risky behaviors that could prevent them from completing college.
  • Involved fathers also help to create an authoritative family environment conducive to learning.
  • Involved fathers may be more likely to support their children financially.

Bradford stated in his conclusion that in today’s global economy, a college diploma has emerged as an increasingly important ticket to achieving the American Dream. Among today’s millennials between ages 25 and 32, every year college graduates earn on average about $17,500 more than their peers with only a high school diploma.[11] A recent Brookings Institution study found that, over a lifetime, a college degree provides an income premium of about $570,000—what this study calls a “tremendous return” on this education investment.[12]

This brief shows that young men and women with involved fathers are significantly more likely to earn a college diploma. Specifically, compared to their peers whose fathers are not involved, young adults with involved fathers were at least 98 percent more likely to graduate from college. Moreover, paternal involvement is especially prevalent among young adults from college–educated homes, and these young adults are also more likely to live in an intact family.[13] This means that young adults from such homes tend to be triply advantaged: they typically enjoy more economic resources, an intact family, and an involved father.

The good news about paternal involvement is that fathers have almost doubled the average amount of time they spend with their children each week, from 4.2 hours in 1995 to 7.3 hours in 2011.[14] The bad news is that partly because fewer adolescents are living in intact, married families, a large minority of the nation’s teens—especially ones from poor and working-class homes—are not experiencing today’s ethic of engaged fatherhood. Thus, if we wish to increase the odds that all young adults have a shot at the higher education of their choice and—by extension—the American Dream, one thing we need to do is figure out how to bridge the fatherhood divide between children from college-educated and less-educated families.


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Bring Your Dad to Breakfast

Delaware Fatherhood and Family Coalition - Wednesday, May 06, 2015

Delaware Fatherhood & Family Coalition County Leadership Committee Presents

Saturday June 20th, 2015
9:00 am to noon

Bring Your Dad to Breakfast

Bring your Father to Breakfast is a community partnership between the Delaware Fatherhood and Family Coalition and IHOP(s) of Kent, New Castle and Sussex County.

The event encourages children and their families to participate in dialogue addressing the importance of father involvement and identifying resources in the community which assist the family as a whole.

Glasgow junior's message: We need our fathers

Delaware Fatherhood and Family Coalition - Wednesday, February 25, 2015

Something broke inside Kasai Guthrie when his father returned to the Philadelphia area. He was closer, sure – much closer to Kasai's Newark home than when he lived in Florida, where he had moved when Kasai was 4 years old.

For years, Kasai had been told his father couldn't see him often because of that distance. Five states were between Delaware and Florida.

But now there would be just one borderline, only about 35 miles door to door, and Kasai was psyched. He knew how things would go. His father would come to his basketball games at Layton Preparatory School. They would hang around together and spend hours talking about girls, basketball and other stuff fathers and sons discuss.

But it didn't happen. Kasai was not seeing his father any more than when he lived five states away. He was crushed.

The strong, confident Kasai, who aced almost all of his classes, stood as a leader among his peers, and excelled in basketball, started to disappear. A powerful depression descended upon him. He didn't want to get up in the morning. And anger broke out in ways that left his mother stunned.

"He plummeted into someone we didn't know," she said. "Cursing out teachers? What? Bringing home F's? What? What just happened?"

It's what happened next that changed Kasai's world and launched a mission that he hopes could change the world for other kids who grew up without their fathers.

He calls it "We Need Our Fathers" and it has been the focus of presentations, like the one Jan. 17 at P.S. DuPont Middle School in Wilmington. The purpose is to promote strong role models for young males of color.

Kasai Guthrie, now a 17-year-old junior at Glasgow High School, is coming back.

Distant parents

Kasai's father, William Guthrie, knew nothing of this trouble. The former International Boxing Federation light heavyweight world champion (1997) stayed in touch with his son – one of 12 children (four boys, eight girls) he fathered over the years. They spent time together in the summers and had periodic visits. But he had no clue that his son wanted more.

Truth be told, William Guthrie had never known the kind of father Kasai was looking for either. He loved the two men who held the title in his life – his biological father, who was a junkie, and his stepfather, who was a hard worker and reliable, but also a junkie until he beat heroin and became an alcoholic. Both now are dead.

Read full article by Beth Miller, The News Journal

Building a better life for black Delawareans

Delaware Fatherhood and Family Coalition - Monday, February 16, 2015

The Rev. Dr. Sheldon Nix: The power of a father and a mother in the black family

The story of the black family, and of black men in particular, that is often told in our society is that black men are living marginal lives at best and have abandoned their many children and don't want to be involved.

A young African American man I'll call Alex told me sobbing in a group session I was leading one day that "If my father had loved us like he loved his new children (by his second wife), I would never have become addicted." He bought the almost always false idea that his father had not wanted to love him and his siblings. That version of the story misses the real reasons some black fathers aren't involved with their children.

Alex began to see his father differently when another man in the group told him in tears (yes, black men cry) that in his first marriage, he was often high, often out with other women, and not connected to his first group of children. The stresses of life and marital struggles were major factors in his lack of involvement with his kids. But now, he told us, he was remarried, had become a serious Christian, was drug free, and had a good career. And he was trying to be a good husband and father to his "new" family with the support of his church. That's not a "turnaround" story we often hear.

And then there are the stories of black men like my father Theophilus, Delaware's second black attorney, who stayed with my mother for 56 years until he died and was a great dad. That's another kind of story that doesn't often get told. We have to understand the multiple "father stories" in our communities, the different patterns of involvement and parental effectiveness and the factors that influence involvement and effectiveness, if we are going to strengthen the black family.

And it's shocking how much it matters that fathers be involved in the lives of their children. In Delaware, 40.1 percent of white children are born to single mothers, but 72.1 percent of black children are born to single mothers (Source: Kids Count 2014). And the impact of that one fact is shattering. Just take poverty. A child in Delaware living with two parents is living in a household earning $82,058 a year on average. A child living with just one parent is living in a household earning just $25,201 – over three times less income (Source: Kids Count 2014).

Put another way, the poverty rate for kids drops dramatically when the child is living with two parents (biological or step-parents). Nationally, children in father-absent homes are five times more likely to be poor, and significantly more likely to end up in prison, end up using drugs, become pregnant as teens, end up dropping out of school, and yes, end up dead.

"Helping fathers of all ethnic and racial backgrounds improve their own lives and helping them be good fathers and partners is the purpose of the Delaware Fatherhood & Family Coalition" says Mary Polk, founder of, the state's largest father-focused organization (www.DFFCdads.org). With over 150 organizations and leaders as members, the coalition is spearheading a movement to promote father involvement in the lives of their children, and to enable effective co-parenting between fathers and mothers regardless of whether the two biological parents are still together as a couple.

As the Complexities of Color Agenda makes clear, there are other "pillars" upon which we must rebuild our struggling community. But the enormous impact of father absence on the lives of our children makes a compelling case that, in addition to the vital task of supporting single mothers, we must also strengthen father involvement.

The Rev. Dr. Sheldon Nix is coordinator of the Delaware Fatherhood & Family Coalition.

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Season of giving about cooperation for divorced parents

Delaware Fatherhood and Family Coalition - Wednesday, December 24, 2014

For the first time in their eight years, Megan O’Donnell’s twin girls will wake up Christmas morning at their mother’s home.

O’Donnell is like thousands of families raising children while not in a relationship with the children’s other parent.

“We have been blessed because we (her and her daughter’s father) are friends,” O’Donnell said. “But I cried tears of happiness when they decided to be here.”

The holidays are a particularly difficult time to navigate for both parents and children in such households. Parents living this lifestyle say cooperation is key during the season of giving.

In Delaware, Family Court publishes guidelines setting definitions for Christmas Eve and Christmas Day as nonbinding guidelines to be used when cooperation is beyond a child’s parents.

In terms of child visitation, Christmas day actually begins at noon Dec. 25. With Christmas Eve beginning at 6 p.m. the day before.

“The contact guidelines are merely suggestions,” explained Leslie Spoltore, partner at Fox Rothschild, LLP in Wilmington and a specialist in family law. “If the matter goes to court, the court is going to hear and take evidence on what is in the best interests of the children and fashion a custody order in their best interest.”

But negotiating beyond the basic recommendation of alternating holidays isn’t easy when the emotions of child rearing and the holidays come around, parents said.

“It can suck the joy out of the holiday,” said Sharif Green, of Wilmington, who has two daughters, one 9, the other 3, with different mothers.

Green said animosity between parents can breed cruel games with the kids stuck in the middle.

“The year before last, she wouldn’t let me see my daughter. We were not getting along well and I really didn’t care to celebrate the holiday at all then,” Green said.

Beyond withholding visitation, there are sometimes mind games that pit one parent as the bad guy in the child’s eyes as a holiday approaches.

These games not only damage the parent, but also hurt the kid, according to Wade Jones, who leads the Sussex County Leadership Committee for the Delaware Fatherhood and Family Coalition and is a behavior health consultant for the state working in middle schools.

“You are asking the child to address grown issues and they do not have the life experience to deal with that,” Jones said. “Most children tend to personalize it with them being a direct link to the breakup. I think you have some children that are torn with not wanting the other parent to know they had too much fun at the other house.”

Jones said he sees the pressure of the holidays on children as they think about how much time will be spent with either parent. This stress manifests through depression and other signs, Jones said.

“A lot of kids are torn with the type of emotion to show to the other parent because they are fearful of hurting their feelings,” Jones observed.

Both Jones and Lillian Rogers, who administers a six-hour parenting class mandated for divorcing families by Family Court, said fostering some sort of working relationship with the other parent is key to creating the best holiday environment possible for a child.

“I ask parents to really focus on putting whatever broke up their relationship on the side,” Rogers said. “Your focus should be a ticker tape running through you head with ‘what is the best interest of my child.’ If you feel like doing something to the other parent for spite, how is it going to effect that other child?”

This may mean disregarding previous traditions or your own holiday joy for what is best for the child, Rogers said.

“I’m the oldest of 12. I can recall the joy and harmony and spirit of Christmas. That is a great experience. Would I rather her have that and open presents with brothers and sisters or open up gifts here with just me,” said Jonathan Wilson, referring to his 3-year-old daughter Talina. “Co-parenting isn’t easy. You have to evaluate your feelings and keep emotions in check.”

Most often it means biting your tongue, said Adrianna Harris, Georgetown mother raising a 5-year-old girl.

“I just bite my tongue and act like nothing is wrong,” Harris said. “It is important to me. I just don't want her to have a bad image, I don't want to make him look like a bad person.”

That can be tricky, Rogers said, recalling calling up her friends and shouting at them to vent before her ex arrived to give the kids Christmas gifts.

“When all those feelings are coming, I would go out of earshot to a phone, call a friend and say ‘don’t even respond to me’ and I would go off,” Rogers said. “So when he would come, I wouldn’t have the compulsion to do that.”

Ultimately, breaking down the barriers stopping cooperation in the parent’s relationship is key to navigating the holidays and all other times, said Wilson, who is also the executive director of Wilmington non-profit Fathership Foundation, which focuses on male parenting education and support.

It takes time, Green said noting he and the mother of his eldest daughter have built an understanding through the years. But even as the years go by and estranged lovers hearts soften, it’s still difficult.

“The hardest part: the holidays are supposed to be for families, but when you experience this type of division, it kind of diminishes the concept of family,” he said. “It goes deep. It is difficult.”

Contact Staff Writer Xerxes Wilson at (302) 324-2787 or xwilson@delawareonline.com.

For more information on the Fathership Foundation visit:http://www.fathershipfoundation.org/.

For more information on the Delaware Fatherhood and Family Coalition visit:http://www.dffcdads.org/.

New Castle County Leadership Meeting

Delaware Fatherhood and Family Coalition - Monday, December 15, 2014

December 18, 2014

6-7:30pm

 

WHO: Dads, Granddads, Uncles, Brothers…..MEN!  Community Agencies and Fatherhood and Family Advocates!

WHERE: Neighborhood House Inc. 1218 B Street

WHAT: This meeting we will be planning for “Family Day!”  We need All in Attendance for ideas and to form a Family Day Committee!

WHY: Together we can achieve more !

 

 

Please return information below by Tuesday, December 16 2014 to vstansbury@jfsdelaware.org  if you plan to attend. Also please forward this email to any individual that may be interested in joining us!

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Email address:__________________________________________

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The 16th Annual National Families & Fathers Conference

Delaware Fatherhood and Family Coalition - Monday, December 01, 2014

Sheraton Gateway Hotel
6101 W. Century Boulevard
Los Angeles, CA 90045

February 17-20, 2015

Held annually on the West Coast of North America the National Families & Fathers Conference is at the heart of Fathers & Families Coalition of America (FFCA). Top 5 Reasons to Attend 16th Annual National Families & Fathers Conference: 1. Opportunity for Partnerships. 2. Accelerate Learning. 3. Learn About New Trends. 4. Get Inspired. 5. The Best Ideas Come When You Least Expect It. Finally, when you look at the registration fees for this conference, you will discover it is designed to offer great opportunities at a very affordable cost. More than 80 nations have taken advantage of plenary sessions, distinguished speakers, professional development skill building sessions and FFCA special events.

 

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The Delaware Fatherhood & Family Coalition is an extension of the Promoting Safe and Stable Families Program and the Responsible Fatherhood Initiative created specifically to give a voice to fathers and the importance of their involvement for the well-being of their children.


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