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The 2015 Tailormade Marriage Summit

Delaware Fatherhood and Family Coalition - Tuesday, January 27, 2015

Delaware Fatherhood & Family Coalition supports Dr. David and Bernadette Mills along with their Tailormade Team on their 2015 Tailormade Marriage Summit.




For more information contact 302.328.5557 or email: throughtheword@aol.com

Sussex County CLC Faith-Based Ambassadorship Training

Delaware Fatherhood and Family Coalition - Wednesday, January 21, 2015

Sussex County CLC Faith-Based Ambassadorship Training Georgetown, DE 19947


The training will be facilitated by Sussex County Leadership Committee President: Wade G. Jones. The trainings will review the Delaware Fatherhood and Family Coalition:
Mission: As a united change agent, we are committed to building a sustainable community coalition that champions father involvement and supports healthy adult relationships, specifically effective co-parenting which in turn provides positive outcomes for Delaware children and communities,
Vision: The envisions healthy and resilient Delaware children whose fathers are involved and parents effectively work together Organizational Structure, Key Components of Father Involvements,
Facts, Statistics and Myths Roles and Responsibilities of an Ambassador and the four (4) Strategic Priorities:

Priority 1: Promote Father Involvement as a Positive Influence - Increase community awareness of the importance of and commitment to father involvement in the lives of their children.

Priority 2: Build a Self-Sustaining, Self-Determining Coalition - Stimulate a broad-based positive social movement to combat father absence and promote father involvement.

Priority 3: Provide DFFC Education & Technique Assistance Opportunities: Provided fatherhood and healthy adult relationship educational opportunities and technical assistance to increase the capacity of the community to support father involvement.

Priority 4: Promote Fatherhood & Co-Parenting Services: Promote fatherhood and healthy adult relationship services and activities by DFFC members.


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Back on Track Involved Youth Spread Thanksgiving Cheer

Delaware Fatherhood and Family Coalition - Thursday, December 25, 2014

Back on Track Involved Youth Spread Thanksgiving Cheer


On November 20, the Back On Track youth participated in Feeding the Homeless for Thanksgiving. This event is held every year at Ecclesia Worship Center in Dover.   The Back On Track youth served over 30 people and their families from two different homeless shelters in Kent County.   All the youth participated in preparing gift bags for each individual, setting up for the event, serving Thanksgiving dinner, and cleaning up.  Feeding The Homeless this year was a good experience and each youth was happy to participate.  The youth said that participating showed them that it's important not to judge others because some families are not as fortunate as others.  It helped them feel thankful and blessed for what they have.

Season of giving about cooperation for divorced parents

Delaware Fatherhood and Family Coalition - Wednesday, December 24, 2014

For the first time in their eight years, Megan O’Donnell’s twin girls will wake up Christmas morning at their mother’s home.

O’Donnell is like thousands of families raising children while not in a relationship with the children’s other parent.

“We have been blessed because we (her and her daughter’s father) are friends,” O’Donnell said. “But I cried tears of happiness when they decided to be here.”

The holidays are a particularly difficult time to navigate for both parents and children in such households. Parents living this lifestyle say cooperation is key during the season of giving.

In Delaware, Family Court publishes guidelines setting definitions for Christmas Eve and Christmas Day as nonbinding guidelines to be used when cooperation is beyond a child’s parents.

In terms of child visitation, Christmas day actually begins at noon Dec. 25. With Christmas Eve beginning at 6 p.m. the day before.

“The contact guidelines are merely suggestions,” explained Leslie Spoltore, partner at Fox Rothschild, LLP in Wilmington and a specialist in family law. “If the matter goes to court, the court is going to hear and take evidence on what is in the best interests of the children and fashion a custody order in their best interest.”

But negotiating beyond the basic recommendation of alternating holidays isn’t easy when the emotions of child rearing and the holidays come around, parents said.

“It can suck the joy out of the holiday,” said Sharif Green, of Wilmington, who has two daughters, one 9, the other 3, with different mothers.

Green said animosity between parents can breed cruel games with the kids stuck in the middle.

“The year before last, she wouldn’t let me see my daughter. We were not getting along well and I really didn’t care to celebrate the holiday at all then,” Green said.

Beyond withholding visitation, there are sometimes mind games that pit one parent as the bad guy in the child’s eyes as a holiday approaches.

These games not only damage the parent, but also hurt the kid, according to Wade Jones, who leads the Sussex County Leadership Committee for the Delaware Fatherhood and Family Coalition and is a behavior health consultant for the state working in middle schools.

“You are asking the child to address grown issues and they do not have the life experience to deal with that,” Jones said. “Most children tend to personalize it with them being a direct link to the breakup. I think you have some children that are torn with not wanting the other parent to know they had too much fun at the other house.”

Jones said he sees the pressure of the holidays on children as they think about how much time will be spent with either parent. This stress manifests through depression and other signs, Jones said.

“A lot of kids are torn with the type of emotion to show to the other parent because they are fearful of hurting their feelings,” Jones observed.

Both Jones and Lillian Rogers, who administers a six-hour parenting class mandated for divorcing families by Family Court, said fostering some sort of working relationship with the other parent is key to creating the best holiday environment possible for a child.

“I ask parents to really focus on putting whatever broke up their relationship on the side,” Rogers said. “Your focus should be a ticker tape running through you head with ‘what is the best interest of my child.’ If you feel like doing something to the other parent for spite, how is it going to effect that other child?”

This may mean disregarding previous traditions or your own holiday joy for what is best for the child, Rogers said.

“I’m the oldest of 12. I can recall the joy and harmony and spirit of Christmas. That is a great experience. Would I rather her have that and open presents with brothers and sisters or open up gifts here with just me,” said Jonathan Wilson, referring to his 3-year-old daughter Talina. “Co-parenting isn’t easy. You have to evaluate your feelings and keep emotions in check.”

Most often it means biting your tongue, said Adrianna Harris, Georgetown mother raising a 5-year-old girl.

“I just bite my tongue and act like nothing is wrong,” Harris said. “It is important to me. I just don't want her to have a bad image, I don't want to make him look like a bad person.”

That can be tricky, Rogers said, recalling calling up her friends and shouting at them to vent before her ex arrived to give the kids Christmas gifts.

“When all those feelings are coming, I would go out of earshot to a phone, call a friend and say ‘don’t even respond to me’ and I would go off,” Rogers said. “So when he would come, I wouldn’t have the compulsion to do that.”

Ultimately, breaking down the barriers stopping cooperation in the parent’s relationship is key to navigating the holidays and all other times, said Wilson, who is also the executive director of Wilmington non-profit Fathership Foundation, which focuses on male parenting education and support.

It takes time, Green said noting he and the mother of his eldest daughter have built an understanding through the years. But even as the years go by and estranged lovers hearts soften, it’s still difficult.

“The hardest part: the holidays are supposed to be for families, but when you experience this type of division, it kind of diminishes the concept of family,” he said. “It goes deep. It is difficult.”

Contact Staff Writer Xerxes Wilson at (302) 324-2787 or xwilson@delawareonline.com.

For more information on the Fathership Foundation visit:http://www.fathershipfoundation.org/.

For more information on the Delaware Fatherhood and Family Coalition visit:http://www.dffcdads.org/.

Raising KINGS Weekend 2015

Delaware Fatherhood and Family Coalition - Saturday, December 20, 2014

Raising KINGS Weekend 2015

Saturday January 17th

P.S. DuPont Middle School 701 W. 34th St. Wilm., DE


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New Castle County Leadership Meeting

Delaware Fatherhood and Family Coalition - Monday, December 15, 2014

December 18, 2014

6-7:30pm

 

WHO: Dads, Granddads, Uncles, Brothers…..MEN!  Community Agencies and Fatherhood and Family Advocates!

WHERE: Neighborhood House Inc. 1218 B Street

WHAT: This meeting we will be planning for “Family Day!”  We need All in Attendance for ideas and to form a Family Day Committee!

WHY: Together we can achieve more !

 

 

Please return information below by Tuesday, December 16 2014 to vstansbury@jfsdelaware.org  if you plan to attend. Also please forward this email to any individual that may be interested in joining us!

PLEASE PRINT

Name:______________________________________________

Email address:__________________________________________

Phone #:_______________________________________________

Mailing address:_________________________________________

DFFC Member: YES_____________  NO_____________________

The 16th Annual National Families & Fathers Conference

Delaware Fatherhood and Family Coalition - Monday, December 01, 2014

Sheraton Gateway Hotel
6101 W. Century Boulevard
Los Angeles, CA 90045

February 17-20, 2015

Held annually on the West Coast of North America the National Families & Fathers Conference is at the heart of Fathers & Families Coalition of America (FFCA). Top 5 Reasons to Attend 16th Annual National Families & Fathers Conference: 1. Opportunity for Partnerships. 2. Accelerate Learning. 3. Learn About New Trends. 4. Get Inspired. 5. The Best Ideas Come When You Least Expect It. Finally, when you look at the registration fees for this conference, you will discover it is designed to offer great opportunities at a very affordable cost. More than 80 nations have taken advantage of plenary sessions, distinguished speakers, professional development skill building sessions and FFCA special events.

 

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First State Feeds Families in Need

Delaware Fatherhood and Family Coalition - Saturday, November 29, 2014

What an Awesome Day!! On Wednesday, October 29th, First State Community Action Agency partnered with Feed The Children and Playtex Energizer to provide 800 boxes of food, toiletries and other necessities to families in need. This is the second year First State has partnered with Feed the Children and Energizer to bring relief and support Delaware families.

The distribution event took place at Playtex in Dover, Delaware. Vehicles lined up as early as 8:00 in the morning for their boxes of food, Avon Products, and toiletries. More than 50 Volunteers from partnering organizations, including officers from the Delaware State Police and Dover Mayor Robin Christiansen, helped load food and toiletry boxes into their recipient vehicles.

The weather couldn't have been better—the rains held back and the sun kept its shine, giving us a magnificent, Spring-like day! And what a beautiful day it was to serve!! What a joy it was to serve! Truly those who received greatly benefitted and were most grateful.

First State wishes to thank all those who took part in this momentous effort. Thank you to all the sponsors—Feed The Children, Energizer, First State; the Mayor of Dover Robin Christiansen, and all the volunteers and supporters who made this event possible!!

Rest easy, knowing you've put a smile on a child's face and helped to ease the burden of a family in need.

 

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Feed The Children is an international non-profit Christian organization providing food, clothing, educational supplies, medical equipment and other necessities to needy individuals. Founded in 1979 and guided by Christian values, Feed The Children's mission is to provide hope and resources for those without life's essentials. In the U.S., Feed The Children partners with over 1,200 local agencies, including food pantries, churches, and soup kitchens, to distribute meals and necessities to more than 400,000 families nationwide. Additionally, Feed The Children supplies backpacks filled with ready-to-eat meals, toothbrushes, school supplies and age appropriate books to homeless students enrolled in public schools with the hope of providing a sense of normalcy for children. For more about Feed the Children,


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The Delaware Fatherhood & Family Coalition is an extension of the Promoting Safe and Stable Families Program and the Responsible Fatherhood Initiative created specifically to give a voice to fathers and the importance of their involvement for the well-being of their children.


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