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Holiday Parenting Time

Delaware Fatherhood and Family Coalition - Monday, December 22, 2014

Christmas is around the corner which means vacation time for children.  The unanswered questions are, where will they go? Who will they be with? For children spending time with their parents during this time is very special, there are so many memories that will last a lifetime. Holiday Parenting Time with your children is something you should always look forward to, whether you have a custody/visitation court order or not, all non-custodial parent have the right to visitation time with their children.  If you have a court order with the custodial parent, it’s very important to implement it at all time but especially during the holidays. However, with a court order parents are in a better place so not to cause any arguments or misunderstanding.

 Building strong family value and lasting memories and doing what’s in the best interest of your children in the coming year should be part of your New Year’s resolution.  This will make a difference between being a Father and a Dad.  Regular contact with your children will build strong leaders, strengthen family values and better fatherhood.  Enjoy your Holiday and your children.

In many states the court holiday schedule is as follow, whereas both parents will enjoy alternating holiday in the odd and even year. 


Holidays:

Mother or Father shall have the child on the holidays in Column 1 in odd-numbered years and the holidays in Column 2 in the even-numbered years. Father or Mother shall have the child on the holidays in Column 1 in the even-numbered years and the holidays in Column 2 in odd-numbered years:

Column 1

Column 2

Easter
Fourth of July
Halloween
Christmas Day

Memorial Day
Labor Day
Thanksgiving Day
Christmas Eve

With the exception of Christmas and Halloween contact, holiday contact shall be from 9 a.m. until 6 p.m. the day of the holiday.  Halloween contact shall begin at 5 p.m. and end at 8 p.m. on Halloween.  Christmas Eve contact shall begin at 6 p.m. on December 24th and end at noon on December 25th.  Christmas Day contact shall begin at noon on December 25th and end at 6 p.m. on December 26th.

 

 

By: Ajawavi Ajavon

DAB Mediation Consultant, LLC

How to Avoid Tax Interception due to Child Support

Delaware Fatherhood and Family Coalition - Monday, November 17, 2014

It’s about that time when all non-custodial parents, who are behind on their child support payments, begin to wonder if they will be getting a refund next year. It’s very disturbing to non-custodial parents when they have tried their best to make payments just to find out that their taxes, either State or Federal, will be intercepted by the Division of Child Support Enforcement. Some may say, “don’t file a refund,” and others may say “pay off your arrears in full”, however the choice is yours to make.

There is a 60 day letter which goes out from the Division of Child Support Enforcement (DCSE) notifying the non-custodial parent that their taxes will be intercepted due to arrears owed. For instance, if the custodial parent is receiving Temporary Assistant for Needed Families (TANF) the amount owed must be at least $150. If the custodial parent is not receiving TANF, the amount owed must be at least $500. However, non-custodial parents can do one of the following to avoid their taxes from being intercepted if done in a timely manner: a) contact your local DCSE agency ; b) Set up a payment arrangement prior to receiving a 60 day letter ; c) request an administrative hearing if you disagree with the amount owed; d) pay arrears in full.

It’s so important to prevent tax interception, if all possible make your child support payments monthly. If there is a change in your circumstances file a child support modification immediately.

By: Ajawavi Ajavon, DAB Mediation Consultant, LLC

Helping Fathers be better Dads

Delaware Fatherhood and Family Coalition - Tuesday, October 21, 2014

 Helping Fathers be better Dads

 

The summit was a wonderful endeavor to engage fathers in the community on the importance of fatherhood. The messages received from all the speakers and workshop presenters were the same “helping Fathers be better Dads”. I am very hopeful that all who attended the summit also received that message. As the famous African proverb goes “it takes a village to raise a child” I came from the summit saying “it takes a village to help Fathers be better Dads”, that’s what Delaware Fatherhood Family Coalition accomplished over the weekend.

There are several things, as a village, which we can do in Helping Fathers be better Dads. First, we need to praise Fathers whenever appropriate. When a father handle a situation well with their children, let him know and be specific when he does it right. Second, support fathers in front of their children. Never disrespect a father in front of their children. It is not only embarrassing but it will also make him defensive. Third, encourage fathers to be a man, children need both father and mother influence in their life. It is very important to understand and value the different influences it have on the children. Most importantly, we need to give fathers their space. It’s agreeable that fathers and mothers both love their children, however they show it in a different way. Give fathers a little room to be adventurous with their children and to teach them in their own unique way. Value the differences and understand that children need their fatherly influences of be a well-rounded child.

So readers, the key to “Helping Fathers be better Dads” are to praise him, support him, encourage him and give him his Space.

Anticipation to Delaware Devoted Dad’s Summit

Delaware Fatherhood and Family Coalition - Thursday, October 09, 2014

Anticipation to Delaware Devoted Dad’s Summit

By. Ajawavi Ajavon
DAB Mediation Consultant, LLC.

October, the air is crisp, the leaves are changing and falling of the trees and Halloween is right around the corner. Football is consuming our way of life on Monday and Thursday nights and all day Sunday and then there is DDD (Delaware Devoted Dad’s) Summit, a father for life. The anticipation is mounting, everyone is eager, and gearing up for this phenomenal summit. It will uplift, enlighten, empower, and encourage fathers to build responsible fatherhood, build healthy relationships and build successful parenting skills. Fathers are coming from all over the tri-state area to attend the 5th annual Delaware Devoted Dad’s summit. Fathers will receive information and support at this two day summit that will last a lifetime. This summit will bring an awareness to the community about the importance fatherhood.


Fathers, get ready for this two day adventure in the world of Fatherhood this experience will be invigorating and inspiring. This is your opportunity to ask questions and share ideas about your situation. There will be others who share the same situation and ideas as you. There will be professionals and subject matter experts that can answer your questions or point you in the right direction to get your questions answered. After the summit, Delaware Fatherhood Family Coalition would welcome your comments on this blog or in the comment section on their page. Thanks and enjoy the summit.

Parenting with a Purpose II

Delaware Fatherhood and Family Coalition - Thursday, September 18, 2014

 

Parenting successfully is only possible for parents who are committed to parenting with a purpose. Unfortunately, there are many things which affect our children and as parents, we do not have control over them. Oftentimes, our children exhibit behaviors that are not addressed and they become adults who take the path of destruction. It is very crucial that parents work diligently to raise their children to do what is right from infancy. Incidentally, it is impossible for our children to avoid wrong doing and chose what is right without knowing one from another. Importantly, a Parent must provide a safe environment and develop a role model and goals for their children. A Parent who has control on who influence their children has the ability to limit outside influences on them. Parenting with a Purpose allow parents to supervise their children as they train them to do what is right. Parents are encouraged to ensure that what is being implemented is beneficial to their children. As parents we train our children to seek forgiveness when wrong, doing choices in and around their environment, proper manners during meal time and constructive and healthy paly with peers and siblings. Parenting with a Purpose is very important to promote positive, healthy and mature movement into adulthood for our children. In conclusion, in order to parent successfully we must Parent with a Purpose.

Parenting with a Purpose Part I

Delaware Fatherhood and Family Coalition - Monday, September 08, 2014

Parenting with a Purpose Part I

by:
Ajawavi Ajavon,
DAB Mediation Consultant, LLC


As Parents it is very important that we have a purpose when parenting. According to Kansas City Chiefs head football coach, Herm Edwards, “a goal without a plan is a wish”. Parenting with a purpose means that parents have to develop a specific plan to accomplish the goals they have for their children. Most parents desire that their children develop sound attitudes, behaviors, values and a positive outlook on the environment around them. However, if a parent has been absent from their children’s life, it could be very difficult to accomplish that goal. In short, parenting with a purpose requires an understanding of the influences and individuals who occupy their children’s time. Therefore, developing effective communication is important.


About DFFC

The Delaware Fatherhood & Family Coalition is an extension of the Promoting Safe and Stable Families Program and the Responsible Fatherhood Initiative created specifically to give a voice to fathers and the importance of their involvement for the well-being of their children.


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